In Her Own Words
About her
Expat retired and returned in 2019 after 35 years as a lecturer in several countries, still feeling like a foreigner here. Then I lost my husband of 30 years during the pandemic. Feeling human again now, and enjoying the good things in life, but would much prefer to be doing that with another. So here I am, looking for connection, companionship, and closeness (all with a very liberal seasoning of spark) with another like-minded soul. Hoping to find a fellow traveller for a long-term relationship.
The good things? All things family (I have a great one, and just the right size: not overwhelming); friends (around the world); most things cultural (one of those photos was taken in La Scala, thanks to friends who wangled free tickets); the great outdoors (love skiing, trekking, camping, swimming in alpine lakes…); and travel off the beaten path - I love France, and I’m currently hoping to take full advantage of a Swiss Travel Pass this summer.
Then there’s the smaller, but no less enjoyable, stuff: an engrossing, thought-provoking, conversation (can’t beat it), book, film, or podcast; music of various genres; freshly made coffee; good cheese with wine; evenings a deux; a stroll on the beach at sunset; a stroll on the beach at sunrise, why not! Breathtaking scenery and views. Breathtaking art and architecture. Wherever you look, so much to admire and learn.
I’m very fit and active and an incurable optimist (despite much in the world indicating that this is entirely misplaced). I prefer to be positive and constructive, rather than complain. I prefer to look forward, not back.
I like feeling I’ve achieved something at the end of the day, so I’m not too keen on having too many lazy days (not in a row anyway!). I enjoy smaller gatherings more than large ones – I’m not so fond of prolonged small talk. I’m not at all flamboyant (prefer to be understated in looks as well as manner) or garrulous (a good conversation needs good listening as well as talking).
About her ideal match
I’m looking for someone who enjoys the good things above and who would introduce me to more. Someone who can tolerate a few peculiar gaps in my knowledge of UK culture without collapsing into fits of laughter too often!
He’d see himself as a thinking person, as empathetic, full of ideas, and loyal. He’d enjoy banter greatly. He’d have led an interesting and fulfilling life, which he intends to continue doing. He’d be energetic, open to different experiences, wanting to travel a bit and able to do so, interested in world affairs, have liberal views on life, and generally have the time and space in his life to make a new relationship work.
He would want to love and be loved, and would understand the need to build trust (a two-way process) as a foundation for that.
He’d even laugh at my jokes now and then.
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About her
Country of origin: |
United Kingdom | |
Location: |
Chichester, West Sussex, England | |
Gender: |
Female | |
Age: |
67 | |
Star sign: |
Pisces | |
Height: |
5' 8" (173cm) | |
Body type: |
Slim | |
Looks: |
Above Average | |
Hair colour: |
Greying | |
Eye colour: |
Green | |
Relationship Status: |
Widowed | |
Looking for: |
Let's see what happens; A long-term relationship | |
Have children: |
Yes, not living with me | |
Want children: |
No | |
Daily diet: |
Vegetarian | |
Smoking: |
Never | |
Drinking: |
Several times a week | |
Education: |
Postgraduate | |
Occupation: |
Teaching / Education / Training | |
Income: |
Enough | |
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | |
Home language: |
English | |
Other languages: |
French | |
Religion: |
Agnostic |
About her ideal match
Country of origin: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Location: |
Within 40 miles of postcode district PO20 (Chichester) | ||
Gender: |
Male | ||
Age range: |
60 - 76 | ||
Star sign: |
Any | ||
Height: |
5' 8" (172cm) - 6' 11" (210cm) or taller | ||
Body type: |
Any | ||
Looks: |
Any | ||
Hair colour: |
Any | ||
Eye colour: |
Any | ||
Has a photo: |
Non-negotiable | ||
Relationship Status: |
Divorced; Widowed | ||
Have children: |
Any | ||
Want children: |
No | ||
Daily diet: |
Eat healthily; Vegetarian; Vegan | ||
Smoking: |
Never | ||
Drinking: |
Occasionally; Several times a week | ||
Education: |
University / College student; Further education; University; Postgraduate | ||
Occupation: |
Any | ||
Income: |
Enough | ||
Ethnicity: |
Any | ||
Home language: |
English | ||
Other languages: |
Any | ||
Religion: |
Any |
- Not important at all
- Slightly important
- Moderately important
- Decidedly important
- Non-negotiable
More about her
Sense of humour: |
Light-hearted |
Intelligence: |
Intelligent |
Ruled by: |
The head |
Party behaviour: |
An average mingler |
Personality traits: |
Easygoing; Faithful; Generous; Happy; Independent; Intelligent; Loving; Loyal; Optimistic; Stable; Thoughtful; Trustworthy |
Valued qualities: |
Chemistry; Compassion; Contentment; Faithfulness; Friendliness; Honesty; Humour; Kindness; Tolerance |
Fashion sense: |
Contemporary (I'm cool, but I don't need labels) |
Favourite clothing: |
My trusty pair of jeans |
Hair style: |
Medium |
Eyesight: |
I wear glasses |
Disabilities: |
I have none |
Body art: |
I don't have any |
Date activities: |
A movie; A music concert; A picnic in a park; Attending a sporting event; Dinner at a restaurant; Going out dancing; Going to the theatre; Meeting for coffee; Meeting for drinks; Going for a walk; Visiting a gallery; Going to a museum |
Music preferences: |
Alternative; Classical; Jazz; Opera; Rock; World |
Reading: |
I read books regularly; I read newspapers regularly |
Books: |
Fiction; History; Non-fiction; Travel |
TV habits: |
I tend to watch cultural programmes |
TV programmes: |
Documentaries; Dramas; Movie Channels; Nature/Wildlife; News |
Movie frequency: |
Once or twice a month |
Movie preferences: |
Art Films; Cult Classics; Documentary; Drama; Independent |
Interests: |
Cooking; Healthy living; Music; Politics; Reading; The arts; Writing books |
Sports: |
Camping; Cycling; Hiking; Skiing; Swimming; Walking |
Cooking: |
I quite like cooking |
Food: |
Asian Fusion; Chinese; Fine Dining; French; Greek; Indian; Italian; Japanese; Sushi; Thai; Vietnamese |
Go Out to Eat: |
I eat out a few times a month |
Dietary Restrictions: |
I have none |
Pace of Life: |
Organised |
Time at work: |
I'm retired |
Pastimes of choice: |
Spending time outdoors |
Time online: |
I'm on for an hour or two a day |
Family size: |
I've got a brother |
Family contact: |
I see them when I can |
Relationship Type: |
I'm just plain single |
Willing to Relocate: |
I'm flexible |
Religious attendance: |
I'm non-practising |
Politics: |
Liberal |
Feelings about using Rest Less Dating: |
Hopeful |
Honesty: |
Extremely |