About her
Well... I conducted a straw poll with my friends and my top qualities, in their view, are: kind, loving, loyal, thoughtful, wise, perceptive, intelligent, spiritual and passionate.
They also think that I’m occasionally quite funny (mostly in a dry, profane and gallowsy kind of way). Playfulness is important to me, but, fundamentally, I am a serious person who takes the important things in life – love, loyalty, integrity, kindness and compassion – seriously.
I am affectionate and emotionally expressive, honest and authentic. I am strong and feminine in equal measure. I am very youthful in many ways and a little old-fashioned in others.
I am more introverted than extraverted and a private person. I am independent by nature and enjoy a balance of home and my own space, and the pleasure of connecting with others and life.
I look for beauty and goodness in the world (wherever I may find it). I dislike aggressive and loud people and unnecessary ugliness in things. Life is brutal enough. I am blessed with wonderful friends and family (quality, not quantity, in both cases) and nurture the depth of those relationships.
A spiritual perspective is very important to my understanding and appreciation of life. I am also down to earth and level-headed. If deep and meaningful is not your thing, I’m not for you. That said, I am not averse to a bit of shallow and pointless in the interests of balance!
My passions are photography, art exhibitions and writing. I love walking in nature. I am reasonably fit and active, but not physically adventurous or sporty, as such, though I must report that I am on fire at my local table tennis club right now (if anyone reads this from my local table tennis club, I will hear the cackles of derision for miles around).
I also love a good potter and a list (with a cup of tea and a bit of chocolate on the side).
I avoid narcissists and psychopaths, if at all possible.
And margarine (work of the devil!)
I try not to hate anything but have my moments!
About her ideal match
I want to feel attraction, but also a deeper sense of connection. This is more important to me than having the same interests or background. I am looking for someone with depth of heart and soul, a good person who is, above all, honest and kind and comes from the heart more than they intellectualise from the head.
If you have suffered a little bit, that’s good because you will have a better understanding of yourself, of life and of me!
I am looking for love, plain and simple (oh, how it isn’t!). No one is perfect. And we are not the same. But the people who love me tell me that I am a treasure (including my ex husband, for the record!). It would be wonderful to be cherished, as such, and to be someone’s special person; to matter to them as they matter to me.
So, if you consider yourself (secretly, of course) to be a top bloke in the honesty and decency department (no cheating history, thanks) and really rather special, and you are most definitely attracted to what you see of me in my photo (bearing in mind that I have not selected one of the dozens of me looking terrifyingly horrific in cruel lighting) and are feeling thoroughly perked up by what you read here, then do go ahead and “shoot your shot” (as they say on Love Island, of which I am a fan – I wasn’t lying about the “shallow and pointless” thing).
If you respond (nicely), I thank you.
