In His Own Words
About him
Since joining this site I have never felt more undateable, apart from among ruthless Russian scammers for whom I appear to be the answer to an extortionist's prayer.
I don't wear lycra. I do a lot of cycling but don't have a Go-Pro camera attached to my crash hat for recording aggressive clashes with motorists, which I then post to YouTube. I've never eaten 'Vietnamese' street food cooked by gap-year hipsters at Borough Market, trekked across the Masai Mara on an ostrich, thought anything Buddhist or opened my chakras to a soundtrack of ambient whale sounds. I don't fetishistically sip from a titanium flask containing 'smart' water and have no pictures of myself dangling from a sheer Himalayan rock-face wearing Maui Jim mirrors. Nor do I compulsively monitor my circadian rhythms through a biosensor strapped ostentatiously to my upper arm. Since birth I have effortlessly lived every moment of my life in-the-moment because, given the structure of time, I found it impossible to do otherwise.
A psychiatrist friend asked me what I want from my life, to which I replied, 'To have a laugh and to not think about what I want from my life.' His response was to suggest that I should either grow up or be sectioned. I grew up shortly after my boy was born and his nappies needed changing. But I regressed again when my boy acquired language, because I realised how many opportunities for having a laugh were provided by the presence of a small child.
We have an uncouth hound that was rescued from the Carpathian Mountains, not far from where Dracula lives, who is understandably phobic about bats and at times appears somewhat bitter.
I've done PhDs, including a philosophical theory of madness, but had I been less self-regarding when I was young I would have chosen a career in food and wine.
About his ideal match
Were I asked about my ideal match, I'd reply, 'Any port in a storm.' I would add that sanity would be a good start, although impulsiveness and unpredictability are exciting. I value a strong will and an independent initiative along with an orientation that looks outwards, towards the world and not inwards, towards the self (I find those that worship at the altar of the self somewhat tedious). A woman that gladly embraces her femininity, who doesn't give a s**t about her pronouns, has a waspish sting and who makes a decent cup of tea. Full-bloodied appetites for food and laughter, plus an impulse for 'letting-go' are thrilling. Plus a susceptibility to over-eating, with appetites for dissent and dessert and a refusal to accept that, 'You can't say that', because you can say that. I've found there are two types of people: those, who when they say they will do something, do it; and everybody else.
What His Friends Say
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About him
Country of origin: |
United Kingdom | |
Location: |
Brighton, East Sussex, England | |
Gender: |
Male | |
Age: |
57 | |
Star sign: |
Sagittarius | |
Height: |
5' 11" (180cm) | |
Body type: |
Average | |
Looks: |
Average | |
Hair colour: |
Dark Blonde | |
Eye colour: |
Blue | |
Relationship Status: |
Separated | |
Looking for: |
Activity partners; Friends; Let's see what happens; A short-term relationship; A long-term relationship; Something casual | |
Have children: |
Yes, living with me | |
Want children: |
No | |
Daily diet: |
Eat most things | |
Smoking: |
Never | |
Drinking: |
Occasionally | |
Education: |
Postgraduate | |
Occupation: |
Teaching / Education / Training | |
Income: |
Comfortable | |
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | |
Home language: |
English | |
Other languages: |
French | |
Religion: |
Atheist |
About his ideal match
Country of origin: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Location: |
Within 40 miles of postcode district BN1 (Brighton) | ||
Gender: |
Female | ||
Age range: |
38 - 55 | ||
Star sign: |
Any | ||
Height: |
4' 7" (140cm) or shorter - 5' 10" (179cm) | ||
Body type: |
Slim; Average; Athletic; Curvaceous | ||
Looks: |
Any | ||
Hair colour: |
Any | ||
Eye colour: |
Any | ||
Has a photo: |
Decidedly important | ||
Relationship Status: |
Any | ||
Have children: |
Yes, not living with me; Yes, living with me; Yes, living with me sometimes | ||
Want children: |
No | ||
Daily diet: |
Any | ||
Smoking: |
Any | ||
Drinking: |
Any | ||
Education: |
Any | ||
Occupation: |
Any | ||
Income: |
Any | ||
Ethnicity: |
Any | ||
Home language: |
Any | ||
Other languages: |
Any | ||
Religion: |
Any |
- Not important at all
- Slightly important
- Moderately important
- Decidedly important
- Non-negotiable
More about him
Sense of humour: |
Irreverent |
Intelligence: |
Intellectually Challenged |
Ruled by: |
Pleasure |
Party behaviour: |
An average mingler |
Personality traits: |
Confident; Daring; Easygoing; Faithful; Funny; Generous; Independent; Loving; Loyal; Outgoing; Stable; Thoughtful; Trustworthy |
Valued qualities: |
Compassion; Friendliness; Honesty; Humility; Humour; Kindness; Sexiness; Tolerance |
Favourite clothing: |
Shorts & a T-shirt |
Hair style: |
Short |
Eyesight: |
I wear glasses only when reading |
Body art: |
I don't have any |
Date activities: |
Dinner at a restaurant; Meeting for coffee; Meeting for drinks; Going for a walk; Visiting a gallery; Going to a museum |
Music preferences: |
Blues; Classical; Dance / Disco; Jazz; Latin; R&B / Soul; Rap / Hip Hop |
Reading: |
I read books regularly; I read newspapers regularly |
Books: |
Fiction; Non-fiction; Science / Technology |
TV habits: |
I don't have a television |
Movie frequency: |
Occasionally or irregularly |
Interests: |
Cooking; Investing; Music; Politics; Reading; The arts |
Sport involvement: |
An active participant |
Sports: |
Birdwatching; Boxing; Cycling; Fishing; Football (Soccer); Golf; Hiking; Mountain biking |
Cooking: |
I love it! |
Go Out to Eat: |
I eat out a few times a month |
Dietary Restrictions: |
I have none |
Pace of Life: |
Go with the flow |
Time at work: |
I work at home |
Pastimes of choice: |
Pursuing a hobby |
Time online: |
I'm on for an hour or two a day |
Family size: |
I've got a brother and a sister |
Family contact: |
I see them when I can |
Relationship Type: |
I'm in the middle of a divorce |
Willing to Relocate: |
I'd consider it |
Animals: |
I like animals |
Pets (Have): |
Dog(s) |
Pets (Like): |
Bird(s); Exotic pet(s); Fish; Reptile(s); Rodent(s); Horse(s) |
Pets (Dislike): |
Cat(s) |
Turn-ons: |
Assertiveness; Flirting |
Dream home: |
In the country |
Religious attendance: |
Never |
Politics: |
Communist |
Retirement plans: |
Living in the country |
